Conversations

Conversations

Why do we silence sexual assault conversations? Sexual assault in my opinion is a very controversial topic. Not in the sense that people agree or disagree in its seriousness but rather in the degree of how prevalent discussions and conversations surrounding sexual assault should be in our society. I bet if I asked you to define what exactly sexual assault was, a lot of you would be able to give me an answer that is relatively close to its legal definition.  Some of you might even be able to go a step further and recite some facts and statistics surrounding sexual assault. But how many of these facts and statistics would be related to the mental and emotional components of being sexually assaulted? It seems as if the only time it’s okay talking about sexual assault openly is when you’re talking about it in terms of numbers or facts. Why? Because it’s just easier that way, by choosing an apathetic route towards...
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You are you — not your experience of abuse

You are you — not your experience of abuse

  For many, the aftermath of experiencing sexual violence can feel like it will last forever—the trauma may feel inescapable and the healing, impossible. However, what is integral to understand is that once someone has been affected by sexual violence, that violence does not define them, nor does it consume their identity. You are a person with unique strengths, passions, and personality traits who happens to also be a survivor of sexual abuse—an irreplaceable and captivating life first, who has had a disturbing experience been imposed upon them second. There is hope, and your true self will rise and beam once more. If you are a survivor of sexual violence, and feel out of touch with your inner being, I encourage you to engage in positive self-talk, or what are also known as self-affirmations—mantras, of sorts. Set aside some quiet, alone time in the morning before the day begins, or at night before bed—both morning and night would be best—and remind yourself of who you are. You are you—not your experience...
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